
Pitchforks are so 19th century. Today's righteous mobs wield cell phone videos and Facebook likes.
Here's the video of a baby whose mom decided against dragging him into the gas station for a short errand. Instead she let wait in the car. This caused some modern day hero to whip out his cell phone, start videotaping, and swear about what a horrible mother she is. When she returned to the scene of the "crime," he cursed her to her face. And since he made sure to videotape the mom's license plate, now she is being investigated by the authorities. Charges are expected.
And of course his video, which he posted on Facebook, has gone viral (2.5 million views) and inspired "investigative" reporting: the reporter interviewed the young woman's neighbors, as if the she was Son of Sam.
If this isn't an example of what the University of California Irvine researchers recently discovered about our judgment of moms, I don't know what is.
Their study found that we are overestimating the danger of unsupervised children because we believe no decent mom would EVER take her eyes off her kids. And once we have judged a mom as immoral, that judgment makes us unconsciously amp up the amount of danger we truly believe the child to be in: a feedback loop of self-righteousness. It's an amazing study. Read about it here.
But the problem we must deal with is this: People not only judge parentsthey get off on hating them. It gives them a moral high.
This is what Theodore Dalrymple describes as "toxic sentimentality." That's when people believe that they are so tenderhearted, they are morally superior to anyone who is not excessively outraged by any perceived danger, especially to a child. And that allows them to get out the pitchforks. They get two thrills for the price of one: Despising a person they deem morally inferior, and feeling morally superior for that hate.
The description of Dalrymple's book includes this perfect line:
Theodore Dalrymple unmasks the hidden sentimentality that is suffocating public life. Under the multiple guises of raising children well and doing good generally, we are achieving quite the opposite for the single purpose of feeling good about ourselves.
Not that all concern for children and the less fortunate is selfish, of course. Just that when you see people screaming about how tenderhearted they are, check to see what they do next: Offer to actually help? Or get out the pitchfork/cell phone?
#1: Gatlin To: Deckard (#0)
The University of California Irvine is a liberal shit hole and I give absolute no credence to any study they post.
The student government recently voted to remove the American flag for its campus office.
After a fight UC Irvine restored the rights of the College Republicans to host events and access space on campus.
The list goes on
Deckard, you reach into the pit holes of Hell for the sources of your stories .geezze!!!
Gatlin posted on 2016-09-08 20:30:07 Reply Private Reply
#2: Deckard To: Gatlin (#1)
That may be true, but it certainly doesn't invalidate their conclusions.
you reach into the pit holes of Hell for the sources of your stories
Deckard posted on 2016-09-08 20:40:31 Reply Private Reply
#3: tpaine To: Y'ALL, --- gatlin toxic? (#0)
tpaine posted on 2016-09-08 21:25:17 Reply Private Reply
#4: Gatlin To: Deckard (#2)
Gatlin posted on 2016-09-08 21:47:27 Reply Private Reply
#5: Gatlin To: Deckard (#0)
She can consider herself lucky, There are many cases where a parent was not so lucky and paid a high price for their stupidity.
Here are but a couple:
There are many more stories with the same resultsNever leave a child alone in a car .not even for one minute.
Gatlin posted on 2016-09-08 22:11:55 Reply Private Reply
#6: misterwhite To: Gatlin (#5)
And how much did her irresponsible behavior cost the taxpayers? Was she billed for their services?
misterwhite posted on 2016-09-09 11:33:30 Reply Private Reply
#7: TheFireBert To: misterwhite (#6)
Isn't that called taxes?
S*** happens. If the kids were kidnapped out of their room at home, would you condemn the parents because they were not in the same room at the time.
We cannot be in the same place as our children 100% of the time. Yes, the mother will regret her decision to leave her kid for a few minutes. I think it was kinda awesome that fate left the child in the hands of car thieves who took the child to school instead of doing something more horrible.
TheFireBert posted on 2016-09-09 12:38:54 Reply Private Reply
#8: Gatlin To: TheFireBert, misterwhite (#7)
Gatlin posted on 2016-09-09 14:29:30 Reply Private Reply