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Title: My Catholic Kid is Gay! Now What??
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URL Source: https://www.catholiceducation.org/e ... holic-kid-is-gay-now-what.html
Published: Jan 18, 2018
Author: DAWN WILDE
Post Date: 2018-01-18 09:04:56 by A K A Stone
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In a previous article, I detailed my ongoing struggle with same-sex attraction (SSA) as I live out my vocation as a Catholic wife and mother. From that perspective, I'd like to share what I think is an authentically loving response to what strikes fear into the hearts of most faithful Catholic parents: your son or daughter coming out as a gay man or lesbian. As someone who knows this struggle intimately, I've thought a great deal about how I would respond to such an admission by my child. Obviously, I'd have a slight advantage over most Catholic mothers because I have my own SSA journey to share. But even beyond that, if my son came to me and confessed to SSA, I would: Listen to him compassionately and let him unburden his heart without seeing me react in horror, disgust, or disappointment. Reassure him I love him unconditionally. That he has no reason to be ashamed. That we are all sinners in need of God's grace. That no cross is more disgusting or better than another. Ask if he's considered he might be called to the single life or religious life, which brings with it a deeper union with God than is usually possible in marriage and family. Offer resources about the theology of the body if he hasn't studied it and it open to it. Ask if he'd like to seek therapy with a Catholic counselor trained in dealing with SSA. Yes, these people exist and they know how to handle this cross in souls sensitively and with great compassion. As a Catholic, I believe that SSA is a disorder and just as with any disorder, I'd recommend individual counseling.* If he wants counseling, I'd offer to pay for it. And assure him I have no expectation he will emerge from the experience "cured" of his SSA. That I expect it will be a lifelong cross for him. That I will love him even if he emerges as an on-fire, flaming homosexual drag queen, even if I'm praying for that NOT to happen! If he chooses not to seek counseling, tell him the option is always there. And assure him, again and again, that I'll love him no matter what. Then, I'd drop the subject — unless he asked me to talk about it. Love him. Pray for him. Sacrifice for him. Our first priest once said, "When people tell you they're tempted to sin, you pull them close. Once they sin, you pull them closer." Unless you've experienced it, you can't imagine the self-loathing and shame that comes with SSA. So it's critically important that we as Catholic parents do everything we can to assure our children who have this cross that while we can't support them having a romantic or sexual relationship with someone of the same sex, we will always, always love them deeply as a person. Jesus loved us "even as we were sinners." Even when we're rotten to the core, He still adores us and pursues us. I'd want my son to know I still love his sense of humor, admire his cooking skills, and appreciate his kind soul — regardless of what else he does in his life. This message — that he is more than "gay" — is something he won't be hearing in the gay subculture. The single greatest thing we must do if our child struggles with SSA is keep the relationship loving and open. If we worked hard while raising our child to ensure he understands the Church's teaching about sexuality, then more preaching will only drive a wedge between you and you'll lose the Catholic influence you could have on his life. When our children have chosen the wrong path, we need to fight their sin with prayer and sacrifice, NOT words. A person who constantly hears he's disordered will feel deep shame and avoid you, no matter how many times you follow it up with, "But I love you anyway!" For as long as my son remained chaste, I'd encourage him to remain an active member of our faith. The only reason I've been able to maintain a loving, fruitful marriage despite SSA is because of God's grace. There is no greater weapon in the battle for chastity — for gay or straight people — than the Eucharist and Confession. Poster Comment: Should have taken him to a real church.
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#12. To: sneakypete (#10)
A K A Pebbles hasn't figured it out yet.
I have a theory that it is nearly impossible to be forgiven as a proud homosexual and the key to this is PROUDLY proclaiming themselves to be gay. To unabashedly be "proud and out". People like this cannot ask for forgiveness for their sexual behavior, because they see it as "who they are". How can a person who is proud of what the Bible condemns as sinful, come to a point that they will renounce that behavior and turn from it? I would say, it is nigh on impossible. THAT is what you are protecting your child from when they come out as a homosexual.
THIS IS A TAG LINE...Exercising rights is only radical to two people, Tyrants and Slaves. Which are YOU? Our ignorance has driven us into slavery and we do not recognize it.
There is something very weird about your comment. There is obviously something in your past that went wrong. Very strange comment indeed.
Maybe you're just not used to seeing the truth? In the entire history of the world,the only nations that had to build walls to keep their own citizens from leaving were those with leftist governments.
Oh I know the truth. I'm just trying not to call you sneakycloset.
And stay away from the so-called 'popular' media. Liberals are like Slinkys. They're good for nothing, but somehow they bring a smile to your face as you shove them down the stairs.
Stinky is either Bi... and fights it, or has a close relative (like a son) who plays the skin flute.
I'm the infidel... Allah warned you about. كافر المسلح
Just like a closet homo, you are projecting your tendencies upon others.
Just like a gay goo gobbler, you feel you must fight another faggots battles. I'm the infidel... Allah warned you about. كافر المسلح
I have known sneakypete for about twenty years on the Internet through several chit-chat forums, under different management rules and policies. I have never seen him suggest himself being a homosexual or advocating the practice homosexuality; in fact, he has said otherwise. It is YOU making all this fake homo stuff about pete. Now, as I recall, your pal, tater and you liked yukon. Don't you see something wrong with all your posting?
You're as bad as Pebbles, always talking gay stuff. I think you both are closeted homosexuals. You should go to a gay bar and explore your inner selves.
I think there is a picture of a gay cop representing GrandIsland on the Internet that should be posted. I can't do it, at the moment.
Perfect for the GI guy.
Only a sphincter slurping salami skinner would even know where to find a picture like that.
I'm the infidel... Allah warned you about. كافر المسلح
I have known sneakypete for about twenty years During those 20 years, how many times did you call Peter Puff... and he answered the boner phone? I'm the infidel... Allah warned you about. كافر المسلح
The picture is merely a single representation of yourself based on perceived agreement of your homo concerns. You are a fuckin' closet case.
That jpg has nothing to do with me, you bologna choker.
I'm the infidel... Allah warned you about. كافر المسلح
You have a serious issue about being poster within this chit-chat channel framework. Your advance of a perceived idea lays the groundwork of and about yourself, that is to saye, you got a problem that can not be solved by anyone but yourself. You are a phuckin' lamer. In fact, because of your preconceived ideas, you are a liar, a thief and a cheat because of repeated, non-substantiated posts.
It looks like you. You are a phuckin' queer.
Wipe that shit off your chin, Bucky. You lost tonight. Tyme to retire from the chit chat channel for today. I'm the infidel... Allah warned you about. كافر المسلح
You are always on gay threads based on your own postings, GI. Don't you see a problem with your own personal interest?
From the new Mz. GI honeymoon photo album? I said Traditional Catholic priest. Contrary to some uninformed folk, a homosexual is an acquired taste, usually delved in when one is young and the thrill of orgasm, no matter from what source, is satisfying.
Liberals are like Slinkys. They're good for nothing, but somehow they bring a smile to your face as you shove them down the stairs.
ROFLMAO! Projection,Fire Island? Since homosexuality doesn't bother me as long as homosexuals don't bother me,WHY would I try to hide it if I were one? All my life I have noticed that those that shriek the loudest about anything have the most to hide. In the entire history of the world,the only nations that had to build walls to keep their own citizens from leaving were those with leftist governments.
Upset because they posted a photo of you without your permission,Princess? In the entire history of the world,the only nations that had to build walls to keep their own citizens from leaving were those with leftist governments.
HorseHillary! If you think that,you are bi-sexual. There is not a heterosexual in the world that has given personal homosexual sex acts a single thought. In the entire history of the world,the only nations that had to build walls to keep their own citizens from leaving were those with leftist governments.
Pete is an expert on bisexuals. Because he is in the closet. Sneakyclosetpeter is an ok guy except for his gay perverted ideas. Whenever you out a queer they always call you one. That is one of the ways to confirm.
You are an apologist for fags and pedophiles. There is the link above that your closeted ass ignored. Then there are lots of kids that have been molested by fags like you have in your family that were scarred and turned faggot for a little while. Peter you should stay off this topic because it gets you upset and if you want to pretend you're not one of them it blows your cover. We don't care which way you swing Pete. Just don't lie to us and tell us you were born that way. Because there is no such thing as a gay gene. If there is prove it. Again your comments on this thread are quite perverted.
I AM FRED MERTZ THE BANNED ASSHOLE.
See what happened to Fred? I wonder who is next.
How do you do, Fred Asshole?
Liberals are like Slinkys. They're good for nothing, but somehow they bring a smile to your face as you shove them down the stairs.
Are you enjoying your life wherein you get your jollies in a repulsive and sinful way? Hell will be full of homosexuals and lesbians. Liberals are like Slinkys. They're good for nothing, but somehow they bring a smile to your face as you shove them down the stairs.
I will be like a Trump rally for you, enjoy! Uhhhhhh..... "On 2018-01-19 09:53:54, A K A Stone wrote: To: IbJensen Sneakyclosetpeter is an ok guy except for his gay perverted ideas. Whenever you out a queer they always call you one. That is one of the ways to confirm." In the entire history of the world,the only nations that had to build walls to keep their own citizens from leaving were those with leftist governments.
I'm not even a little bit upset about it,other than the fact that I insist that Americans who are homosexual have the same rights as every other American. Equal rights is at the core of why America was created and exists. As for me being in the closet goes,you need to think long and hard about why *I* would be in the closet about being a homosexual when I plainly say that homosexuals are Americans and have the same rights and obligations as every other American. BUT....,if it makes you feel better about yourself to accuse me of being a homo,go right ahead and do it. No skin off my nose. In the entire history of the world,the only nations that had to build walls to keep their own citizens from leaving were those with leftist governments.
Are you enjoying your life,where you get off on being repulsed while secretly thinking lustful thoughts? I bet not one homosexual in 100 thinks about homosexual sex as much as you do,or enjoys it as much as you enjoy claiming to be repulsed by it. Dominatrix's have been earning big bucks off of people like you for centuries. Hell will be full of homosexuals and lesbians. Will Jesus be there? Will you be flogging him with your whip while you "flog" yourself in a VERY different way? After all,did not Jesus say "Love your fellow man",and live with a dozen of them? In the entire history of the world,the only nations that had to build walls to keep their own citizens from leaving were those with leftist governments.
You're a filthy little guttersnipe rounding up strays at the foot of Breakback Mountain.
Liberals are like Slinkys. They're good for nothing, but somehow they bring a smile to your face as you shove them down the stairs.
Does what you posted make any sense to you? Liberals are like Slinkys. They're good for nothing, but somehow they bring a smile to your face as you shove them down the stairs.
You poor,superstitious bay-bay. Whatever are you going to do with yourself if you ever figure out religion is a scam? My guess,serial rapist/killer of street corner rent boys.. In the entire history of the world,the only nations that had to build walls to keep their own citizens from leaving were those with leftist governments.
It's not all that hard to figure out.
#13. To: A K A Stone (#0)
#14. To: sneakypete (#11)
#15. To: A K A Stone (#14)
There is something very weird about your comment.
#16. To: sneakypete (#15)
Maybe you're just not used to seeing the truth?
#17. To: sneakypete (#6)
People who are genuinely homosexual can accept it and choose to be celibate
#18. To: A K A Stone (#16)
#19. To: GrandIsland (#18)
Stinky is either Bi... and fights it, or has a close relative (like a son) who plays the skin flute.
#20. To: buckeroo (#19)
Just like a closet homo, you are projecting your tendencies upon others.
#21. To: GrandIsland, sneakypete (#20)
#22. To: GrandIsland (#20)
#23. To: Fred Mertz, GrandIsland (#22)
#24. To: buckeroo (#23)
#25. To: Fred Mertz, GrandIsland (#24)
#26. To: Fred Mertz (#24)
#27. To: buckeroo (#21)
#28. To: GrandIsland, Fred Mertz (#26)
#29. To: buckeroo (#28)
#30. To: GrandIsland, sneakypete (#27)
#31. To: GrandIsland (#29)
#32. To: buckeroo (#31)
#33. To: GrandIsland (#32)
#34. To: Fred Mertz, Mz GI, unholy matrimony (#24)
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#35. To: sneakypete (#6)
#36. To: GrandIsland (#18)
Stinky is either Bi... and fights it, or has a close relative (like a son) who plays the skin flute.
#37. To: GrandIsland (#26)
Only a sphincter slurping salami skinner would even know where to find a picture like that.
#38. To: IbJensen (#35)
Contrary to some uninformed folk, a homosexual is an acquired taste, usually delved in when one is young and the thrill of orgasm, no matter from what source, is satisfying.
#39. To: IbJensen (#35)
#40. To: sneakypete (#38)
There is not a heterosexual in the world that has given personal homosexual sex acts a single thought.
#41. To: A K A Stone (#40)
#42. To: Fred Mertz, sneakypete (#41)
#43. To: Fred Mertz (#41)
#44. To: sneakypete (#38)
#45. To: IbJensen, Donalds Hell, Log Cabin Republicans (#44)
Hell will be full of homosexuals and lesbians.
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#46. To: A K A Stone (#39)
Whenever you out a queer they always call you one. That is one of the ways to confirm.
#47. To: A K A Stone (#40)
Peter you should stay off this topic because it gets you upset and if you want to pretend you're not one of them it blows your cover.
#48. To: IbJensen (#44)
Are you enjoying your life wherein you get your jollies in a repulsive and sinful way?
#49. To: sneakypete (#48)
#50. To: hondo68 (#45)
I will be like a Trump rally for you, enjoy!
#51. To: IbJensen (#49)
(Edited)
You're a filthy little guttersnipe rounding up strays at the foot of Breakback Mountain.
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