Title: 'I am a girl': The plight of Tammy, the adopted son of two lesbians who started sex change aged 8 because he has always maintained he is a girl Source:
Daily Mail Online URL Source:http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art ... ormone-blocking-treatment.html Published:Sep 29, 2011 Author:John Stevens Post Date:2011-09-29 22:29:04 by Sebastian Keywords:None Views:126625 Comments:212
'As soon as we let him put on a dress his personality changed to a very happy little girl thrilled to be alive'
A boy who started the process of changing sex at age eight has told how he always knew he was meant to be a girl.
Thomas Lobel, who now calls himself Tammy, is undergoing controversial hormone blocking treatment in Berkeley, California to stop him going through puberty as a boy.
His two lesbian mothers, who adopted him aged two, say that they have been criticised by friends and family, but insist they have not forced their son to become a girl.
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Therapy: Thomas Lobel, who now calls himself Tammy, is undergoing controversial hormone blocking treatment
No pressure: The boy's two lesbian adopted mothers, Debra, left, and Pauline, right, say that they have not forced their son to become a girl
They say that one of the first things he told them when he learnt sign language aged three, learned because of a speech impediment, was, 'I am a girl'.
Tammy, now 11, wears dresses and effectively lives as a girl.
His parents, Pauline Moreno and Debra Lobel, say that their son, who they claim was depressed at a younger age and threatened to chop of his own penis, is now much happier.
The couple were married in 1990 by a rabbi, according to Pauline's Facebook page, and have two older sons and grandchildren.
PROUD MOM: Two photos of Tammy from one of Pauline's Facebook albums called 'My Sweet Sweet Princess'
Here is Tammy with her mothers and older brother Edgar at his recent bar mitzvah. Mother Pauline said Tammy was shy and unhappy as a boy when compared to her older, outgoing brothers
Unlike his older brothers who are both described at outgoing and athletic, Thomas liked to read Wonder Woman comic books and play with dolls.
He shunned baseball hats, preferring rhinestone hair accessories.
At age seven, after threatening genital mutilation on himself, therapists and psychiatrists diagnosed Tammy with gender identity disorder.
A year later his parents allowed him to start the first step of his transition to becoming female by letting him pick his own clothes and wear bras.
Tammy favor headbands to baseball hats and picked out bras and dresses to start wearing when given choice in clothing to wear
'As soon as we let him put on a dress, his personality changed from a very sad kid who sat still, didn't do much of anything to a very happy little girl who was thrilled to be alive,' one mother Pauline told CNN.
This summer, Tammy started taking hormone-blocking drugs, which will stop him from experiencing puberty.
The hormone-suppressant will postpone the 11-year-old developing broad shoulders, deep voice and facial hair.The diagnosis has been hard to accept for Tammy's parents, but they insist their sexuality has nothing to do with it.
As Pauline said, people think 'we're pushing her to do this. I'm a lesbian. My partner is a lesbian. That suddenly falls into the fold: "Oh, you want her to be part of the lifestyle you guys live".'
Unhappy: Tammy was adopted aged two by Debra Lobel and Pauline Moreno
But they insist that is not the case and the decision has been difficult.
His parents say the hormone treatment will give him time to figure out if he wants to fully transition to being female or go through puberty as a boy.
If he chooses to stop taking the drugs, he will undergo natural male puberty at a later stage and his future fertility would not be impacted.
Should he decide to transition to an adult female, he can take female hormones as well, which would raise his voice, grow breasts and develop other feminine physical characteristics.
Pauline and Debra have been married since 1990, when they were joined in a commitment ceremony by their rabbi
San Francisco, right by Berkeley, is one of four cities in the United States with a hospital that has a program for transgender children.
The University of California San Francisco is home to the Center of Excellence for Transgender Health.
Children are seen at length by mental health professionals and then treated by pediatric endocrinologists.
Others cities with youth programs are Boston, Seattle and Los Angeles.
Two moms. No he doesn't have two moms. You can only have one mom. By the way that isn't a picture of a family. It is a picture of two sex perverts destroying a little boy. Gee I wish Jerry Brown would have them executed for crimes against this innocent little boy.
"If you defend this you are a worthless freak piece of trash. Do you defend it or do you have some sanity?"
Who made you judge of how much someone is worth based on their opinions?
You have to start talking sane to be talked back to with the same respect and faith in the notion that you are sane too if we are to go anywhere in this topic.
You run your forum with the notion that it is a venue to lynch whatever particular people you don't like, yet you wear a hair shirt when 4UM bans you because of your pompous attitude about some commonly shared opinions most the posting body have in common.
That is another issue you should clear up before talking this deep about politics or social issues with me. Your hypocracy is unbecoming on you.
Hypocracy and hatefully trying o browbeat; you never cease to amuse me, Stone. But you never impress me.
Are you in favor of governors executing people just because they feel like it, like Stone is?
Skip you are one dumb fucker. I favor executing people who fuck with little kids and drug them to suppress their natural growth.
Those cunts should be hung in public to make an example out of someone who abuses a child like this. Then they should invite the Mexicans over to play hit the pinata.
You stomp out evil. You don't embrace it and say it is a virtue.
This site is libertysflame. Not anti liberty. Moron.
Do you actually think Jerry Brown is going to do anything about this???? Tell me, what should he do about Cher? After all, Chaz was her daughter originally. Should she be executed, too?
Are you in favor of governors executing people just because they feel like it, like Stone is?
Personally I could care less about Cher and her daughter, they can be as messed up in the head as they want..... They can also keep their problems to themselves and deal with them without soliciting tolerance/approval/pity from others!!!! That right there is the reason why most people don't care/like gays....
As far as the governor executing people well it's up to him or her if they let court mandated justice take it's course, or pardon the offender..... If the court decides it's your time to assume room temperature for some crime you've commited then so be it.....
So let me ask you a question, do think think pedophilia, necrophilia and pederasty should be socially acceptable like homosexuality????
"CHANGE" you can step in..... My dogs have created more shovel ready jobs than the self appointed Messiah!!!
"Tea Baggers in general appear to love and admire despots."
There is no excuse ever to dictate culture with the barrel of a gun, or the sting of an executioner's needle.
I notice the self appointed definer of culture doesn't like studies that show conclusively that the brain defines gender and that some people need to define their own gender roles dispite what is expected from them because of their body's manifestation of gender.
I notice is sexist nature comes through when he talks about the transformation physically from male to female is a process of "stunting someone's growth." Since when is being female inferior to a male? That's news to me, that one 'is stunted if they are female.'
The gender this girl should manifest is the one that feels right to her. And she is lucky to have two caring parents to take care of her and help her get the medical care she needs for transformation.
People who transition blend very well into into general culture as the function better as they are far happier and satified with life then they would have been had they had to repress who they were just to keep people like Stone from having his head explode.
I have no sympathy for depotic thinking either. And anyone that does not accept that homosexual and transgender people are very normal, productive and decent people it is their problem to work out.
They are foolish to bother others about what afficts them in their minds and hearts. The snake oil of hatred and intolerence is not as a popular tonic as some might like to believe. Which give me some hope for the future.
I notice is sexist nature comes through when he talks about the transformation physically from male to female is a process of "stunting someone's growth."
I believe he is talking about the various hormone replacements required, most of which have known cancer causing abilities.
I'm sure Stone is not so judgemental about people who do far more dangerous things like smoke tobacco or do a simular trade off of some risk for a more satifying life.
Some transgender people cannot transition with surgery or hormones yet function better just assuming the more comfortable gender role for them.
There is no need to get hung up on the meds. Theu are only prescribed with periotic examinations and blood work anyway, So thismakes the risk far smaller then it is if someone self medicated with purchases over the Internet. And all the surgeries require help with adjustments into the preferred gender role. The protocols and safeguards to make sure that only people with what the DMS IV called 'Gender Dysphoria' transition as well established and functions well.
Anyone can change their name legally to better match their gender identification in any state and change the gender marker on the driver's licenses and other ID in most states along with doing that.
Once someone settles into being who they identify as, they should be left alone and have their rights and social status protected.
There is no need to get hung up on the meds. Theu are only prescribed with periotic examinations and blood work anyway,
You seem to know a lot about this Mike. Hey remember that pic you used to post of yourself. Can you post it here. I want to see if you are "transgendered". Don't tell me until I see the picture. I want to guess. Thanks.
Anyone can change their name legally to better match their gender identification in any state and change the gender marker on the driver's licenses and other ID in most states along with doing that.
Seems you have been putting a lot of thought into this.
Once someone settles into being who they identify as, they should be left alone and have their rights and social status protected.
Mike you're goofy as hell. Your point of view is so far out there. I can't help but laugh at you. I like you though. Just think your views are screwed up.
The truth must lay somewhere between the people who think he's a tyrant and those who think he's a compromising wimp. I think Obama is all things to all people.
"You post articles- intellectual excrement, really- that support your inane, insipid mentality, on a regular basis. Capitalist Eric
Seems you have been putting a lot of thought into this.
I do work for Basic Rights Oregon ever since the fight against the Oregon Citizen's Alliance.
I also have lived in Portland and got to know quite a few transgendered people while working at the Portland Saturday Market. One of the is chairwoman of the market board up there this year.
I am not going to find transgendered people for you to date. If you want that sort of contact, I'm sure there are dating services you can contact who can help you.
I saw no mention of the courts in Stone's response, did you?
As to your question, no I don't.
No I didn't and I figured you knew when someone was pulling your chain, guess not!!!! As it stands right now it is beyond his power to execute people, and as far as I'm concerned it should stay that way...
Then you should be against open homosexuality too, because a lot of them commit those heinous acts I mentioned in my last post......
"CHANGE" you can step in..... My dogs have created more shovel ready jobs than the self appointed Messiah!!!
Homosexuals are very normal people who have a different preference for partners than you, that's it.
The status was destigmatized in 1972 precisely because homosexual people matched heterosexual people in every aspect of life but for one minor difference.
Your problem is your unreasonable and malicious bigotry that just makes someone like you the afflicted one here.